I picked the "I'm not a girl" path really early on. The name helped I think, I could be "Zebee" and pick my own path. How many had that escape route?
I agree that those who consciously buy into the patriarchy's idea of what women are and do shouldn't complain when they find the downside, but then again how many did it consciously?
And many did the "give men what they want, and you get looked after" dance to find they'd been lied to. That has to hurt.
(not even that they leave... men die. A friend's mother was the princess type and when her husband died she was in her 70s and really wasn't able to comprehend what was happening. He fulfilled his half of the bargain, but he died.)
I have no idea how much of the feeling I get of being despised by the girly girls is in their heads and how much in mine.
After all, I can't really escape the cultural imperatives much as I'd like to.
Women can definitely be bitchy to each other, as men can be to each other. That's humanity.
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I picked the "I'm not a girl" path really early on. The name helped I think, I could be "Zebee" and pick my own path. How many had that escape route?
I agree that those who consciously buy into the patriarchy's idea of what women are and do shouldn't complain when they find the downside, but then again how many did it consciously?
And many did the "give men what they want, and you get looked after" dance to find they'd been lied to. That has to hurt.
(not even that they leave... men die. A friend's mother was the princess type and when her husband died she was in her 70s and really wasn't able to comprehend what was happening. He fulfilled his half of the bargain, but he died.)
I have no idea how much of the feeling I get of being despised by the girly girls is in their heads and how much in mine.
After all, I can't really escape the cultural imperatives much as I'd like to.
Women can definitely be bitchy to each other, as men can be to each other. That's humanity.
I suppose I don't move in those circles any more.
Zebee